You lose your job. A loved one’s death occurs. You get an illness. Any one of these life situations can be chaotic and brain-bending. What do you do? If you are part of any social network, if you have some friends, if you have some family members – you’re probably going to be at an advantage over those who have meager social or familial circles. Consider these life-changing situations and strategies to cope with them. Extensive psycho-social studies have proven that a suddenly “disenfranchised” person – made so by a move, loss of a job, the death of a loved one, or the onset of illness – can re-determine their self-worth and their usefulness, their “lovability”, in a pretty cruel world, with the help of family and friends.
Moving is a wrench in anybody’s life, no matter how well planned. New surroundings, new job, new people, new routines can put the brain in plenty of turmoil. Exploration is fun and invigorating and it’s the main reason many folks travel. Turn this move opportunity into a mini-vacation. Treat it as you would stepping foot into a new culture or environment. Make your first visits to the “new” grocery store, the “new” library, the “new” church as you would if you had just stepped off the plane into a “new” world.Be a little bit nosy. Make an effort to incorporate your “old” stuff into your “new” housing situation. Make your new place in a way you had dreamed of, using feng shui techniques, perhaps. Or an outlandish color scheme you’ve wanted to try. If it’s a block-away move or a country-away move, bring people to your new place. Locally, perhaps you’ll be in a different enough situation that you can make tea-time at a nice “new” place that’s all of sudden nicely convenient for you and an old friend. If you’ve moved half-way around the world, start making new friends immediately. Of course, be careful, but realize that taking a little risk can allow some serendipity to enhance your relocation. Once you’re settled, make it as easy as possible for old friends and family members to visit you in your new digs. Offer the hospitality of the spare bedroom. Or arrange for them to stay at nearby B&B, maybe even picking up part of the bill. Or, offer to pay for a bus or train ticket, or a flight. Great comfort can be had by welcoming familiar faces into your new realm. Seeing a happily familiar face can set off all sorts of pleasant brainwaves – neuroscientists have already proven that.
Losing Your Job
When people lose their jobs, they will probably lose contact with colleagues that have been important to them over a rather lengthy period of time. They need to determine if some of those important relationships can be spun off into other networks. If nothing else, being in charge of a “reunion” of former colleagues that meets from time to time will help. Other relationships can rise to the top to ease the dissolution of your work network. With any of the more or less permanent circles a person belongs to beyond the work environment, buddies at the gym, or in the bridge club, can ease the transition and you may even expand the relationships you have in that particular venue. As with moving, this may be an opportune time to join a book club, a sports club, or some other association where there are needs and goals and opportunities to be met and used, but that are more pleasant than work-based situations. One of the biggest losses associated with a job loss is the loss of self-esteem, and that’s a lot of losses. No matter how the employer-employee relationship terminated, everyone faces the fact that they are indeed replaceable, that they are not quite as unique, or special, or needed as they thought they were. Of course, getting fired presents a greater pinch on the ego than does being one of a number excused due to R.I.F.’s or going out of business. Job loss is one of those times when it’s so necessary to cleave to family and friends. Hopefully, a lot of those friends are from your old workplace. Commiseration loves company – no, absolutely demands it. They will help you realize that you are indeed special to a lot of folks. And, if they’re good friends and family members, they can even help you look at the funny side, the bright side, the silly side, to losing a job. Avail yourself of their company – your brain will thank you. The more hugs you get, the further away from depression or physical illness you’ll be.
A death of a family member or a friend, regardless of the depth of your relationship with that person, will leave a hole in your life and your heart. Grieving is absolutely necessary. Who best to grieve with? Some friend or family member with whom you’ve shared a relationship involving the deceased. Your brain needs the help of other grieving brains at this time. The ceremony or funeral rites acknowledging the loss, bringing others into the grieving fold, is strong comfort and reassurance that life goes on.Of course, the closer you are to the deceased, the greater the grief and the bigger hole in your life. At this dark time in your life, you need to let off steam. Don’t abandon the healthy and helpful routines that are a part of your life. Your grieving heart and brain needs for you to tend your garden, to take your jog or visit the gym, continue baking cakes for your friends or the church bake sale. Get a haircut or a manicure. Treat your brain tenderly at this time. And that means sticking to a routine, but, of course, this does not mean neglecting fellow mourners. Those relationships, those encounters, are precious.
Getting an Illness.
Becoming ill or being diagnosed with a disease is probably one of the loneliest things that can happen to a person. The disease involves the person alone – their one body, their one brain, their one spirit. Many people, unwisely, choose to keep their condition hidden for a variety of reasons. The sufferer may feel guilty, may feel dirty, may feel inclined not to cause others any difficultly or trouble.This attitude is so absolutely wrong. A disease, no matter how much a party may be culpable – emphysema from smoking, for instance – there is no way the person should be considered a pariah and the person does not need to be told, “I warned you ….”And there is absolutely no reason for not reaching out. Nearly one-hundred percent of the time, folks around the ailing person do so deeply want to help once they’ve learned of the affliction. An immense part of human nature, believe it or not, involves or revolves around caring for others – it is part of our survival as societies and a part of our success as a species. It is very natural. Don’t thwart it, whether you’re the sufferer, or you are the friend or family member of the ailing person. If you are sick, seek out others from friend and family circles; get involved with folks who have the same problems so you can get, and give, support. Your brain, whether you’re sick, or a friend to the ailing, is hardwired to help or seek help. Of all the species on earth, even though there may be statistics to suggest otherwise, human beings with their human brains are the life-form most capable of compassion. A sense of friends and family circles of some sort can be found in most of the life forms on the earth. Humans have brought those networks to the highest levels. Whether our brains have made us so, or we have made our brains so, is up for further study. Meanwhile, enjoy the compassion, from either side.
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